I Really Want A Baby! Im I Crazy? ?
Posted on 22. Nov, 2009 by in Q&A
Is it really crazy for me to think I want a baby?? Im 16 years old. Yeah I know im young and stuff, but OMG I want a baby so bad. There so cute , and they love you and everything. I love the the feel of a babys skin, and it really melts my heart, when I see a baby smile or even laugh.
Every time I go out, I see moms with there babys. Omg I feel like crying! I want a baby so bad.
Do you think it’s a good idea to have a baby right now? I do have a job, and very good in saving money. Im not goin to quit school and I will still go to college. I have a boyfriend also! We have not had sex yet! But we have talk about it. Also he is a good guy, and wont leave me. We been together for 8 months now.
Also my family makes good money.
So what do u think?…Crazy or good idea??
Cindy D
Nov 22nd, 2009
VERY BAD IDEA!
Go to college first! Get a good job, get married, be able to support yourselves and have a stable relationship.
What you aren’t seeing is the nasty diapers, the exploding poo (no joke), the crying for hours until you’re at your wits’ end trying to figure out why, the lack of sleep, the total inability to do anything not planned in advance. Do you really think the baby will cooperate and go to sleep just because you have a paper due or a test to study for? Dream on! Formula and diapers cost a mint, they’re always outgrowing their clothes, you have to pay for doctor visits at 2 weeks, 6 weeks, 3 months, 6 months, 12 months . . . and those are the well-baby visits! Sometimes they get sick! You can’t take a baby to work, so you have to pay for day care, too.
I love my children. They are worth everything we’ve gone through–well, most of the time I think so! but we were ready. You aren’t.
It’s good that you haven’t had sex yet. Before you do, see your doctor about reliable birth control. Babies should be wanted and loved and born to parents able to care for them.
I’m not down on you at all. I understand where you’re coming from. They are soft and beautiful and they do melt your heart. But it’s not time yet. Try babysitting!
Spend some time hanging around this section of Yahoo answers and I think you’ll find it highly educational.
Good luck!
trixylov
Nov 22nd, 2009
I would wait until you decide to have a baby just yet. Yes babies are cute and all, but they are a lot of hard work. I didn’t notice until I had one myself. Me and my fiance had good jobs, our own place and everything, I’m 20 years old and he’s 25, and I love my baby girl to death, but I wish I would have waited a couple years just to enjoy my youth more.
threenor
Nov 22nd, 2009
for what you want, you’re better to get a job in a nursery.
trust me, parenting is NOT about “cute”, “pretty”, and the rest of the glamour – it’s more about pee and poo and getting puked on after not sleeping for six months (and i’m not kidding about that: i haven’t slept 4hrs straight or more than six hrs in a night in TWO YEARS!).
momoftwi
Nov 22nd, 2009
Yes that’s crazy, live life before settling down. It’s not bad for thinking that, some woman feel they were born to be a mother and can’t wait. Do you know anyone with newborns? Spend a whole week with that person and you will see the work you have to put in to have clean, healthy and happy babies. You don’t need that right now, be a teenager. Have fun!
Daniel's Mum~Due 04/03/10
Nov 22nd, 2009
Crazy. In my own personal experiences…I wasn’t prepared for a baby and I was 30 when I had him.
You don’t know that he won’t leave you. In reality…a baby can make the best of men run the other direction. Babies are wonderful…but they are also stressful…expensive and demanding.
Wait until you are done school at least.
Twilight Lover
Nov 23rd, 2009
Definitely crazy!!!! Don’t you think that you are kind of young? But my opinion. It’s not me. It’s you. But I think wait just a little but longer until you get married. You are not supposed to have a baby until you are married you know.
?Megan ????? ???
Nov 23rd, 2009
Do NOT have a baby or get yourself pregnant now. Wait, it will be so much more worth it. Maybe in your spare time do like a nanny thing or a really awesome baby-sitting business, or homework helper business. It will ‘quench’ your needs.
Mrs.X
Nov 23rd, 2009
“Also my family makes good money. ”
You don’t rely on your family to help support your baby, you and your HUSBAND alone support your baby.
Seriously, wait until you are married to a man with a good job.
az_mommm
Nov 23rd, 2009
I think you should get off the drugs first.. ya know, the ones that make you think that at 16 you could even possibly have an idea of how hard it is to raise a child and even think you are ready for it.
thriftst
Nov 23rd, 2009
They are not toys. They don’t love you, you love them and take care of them. If you think you are going to feel loved when you have a baby you are dead wrong. Babies are A LOT of work.
serenity
Nov 23rd, 2009
Yeah, they’re cute. You haven’t seen the other side of babies. Try going to school after the baby had been crying all night for no reason that you could think of.
*i go by mommy*
Nov 23rd, 2009
honey, wait until you can raise a baby on your own. their not so cute when they keeo you up all night & play all day where you get no sleep, have belly aches for hours & poop all the time. Just wait
Expecting my 3rd baby next year!
Nov 24th, 2009
YOU DONT KNOW THE REALITY BEHIND THOSE SMILES AND LAUGHS OF A BABY…THEYRE TREMENDOUSLY HARD. YOU AND YOURE BF HAVE BEEN TOGETHER 8 MONTHS AND YOURE LIKE HES NOT GONNA LEAVE ! PLEASE 8 MONTHS IS SOO SOON TO HAVE A KID.
Mommy of 1 baby and 2 puppies!
Nov 24th, 2009
Watch Maury Povich!
Who will watch the baby when you work and go to school and college?!?
Babies are waaaay to much work and money for any 16 year old to choose to have one!
Mellorin
Nov 24th, 2009
If this post is any indication, you’re not mature enough.
kelli.an
Nov 24th, 2009
Maybe start off with a puppy. It’s too easy for things to fall apart and it would be alot of pressure for someone your age.
theblula
Nov 24th, 2009
Not crazy for wanting a baby, but crazy if you do it.
partyhar
Nov 25th, 2009
i think you should wait a little longer befor you make that decision its a big commitment to have one and they cost a lot of money to…
‘and your boyfriend may say he will stay with you but what happens when you guys brake up or get into a fight you will be raising a baby alone…
trust me its not easy my mom was a single mom and she had me when she was 19 and she told me its not easy she gave up her life for me…
but if you really want one then go ahead just be prepared your going to have to give up alot of your life alot of my friends are pregnant right now and they cant do anything fun it really messes up your school life to you have to drop out when you 6 months pregnant and go to a continuation school.
if your committed then there is nothing wrong with it…
Buffalo NY plastic surgeon
Nov 25th, 2009
Well babies are a lot of joy and I do think it is very sweet of you to want one. But if I were you, I would wait a few more years atleast. I know things might seem good now but what if in a year they werent? Im not saying to think that all things will be bad but I am say always be prepared for the worst. And I know everybody says this and you probably overlook it a lot but babies ARE A LOT OF WORK! That means time and money. Just think if you had a child now, that would limit a lot of things that you would be able to do that most 16 yr olds get to experience in life. Another thing is what if you had a disabled child? Would you be mentally and physically ready to take care of it? Not all babies are perfect and they don’t catch everything before the birth. That is another thing to consider. All in all I don’t think it is a good idea. Don’t rush life, you will be there before you know it.
samantha m
Nov 25th, 2009
I know how you feel. I was 19 when I had my first and only because my husband and I had to try for over a year! So I would have been younger. And I remember wanting one at your age. But YES it’s crazy. It’s not all cute cuddly, great smelling babies. They get sick and over tired, sometimes you dont like them or yourself. I remember thinking how cute it was when girls in my school were pregnant. But let me tell you, I worked in the daycare at my school and worked in the teen mom class and it was no picnic for them. You know that feeling waking up in the morning not wanting to get ready, now add getting a baby ready too. And thats only if your school has a daycare, if not are you going to drop out? How will you make money? Pay for daycare? Feed and clothe him? Really its harder than it seems Im sure you think you have all the answers but you really don’t. At your age the chances of a guy sticking around is slim to none. Talk to some 30 or 40 year old single moms. Ask them how they do it. My mom was alone and it was hard. we barely got by for along time. And she had an education and was alot older than you. Trust me, wait, you’ll thank yourself later
And ps, if that doesnt do it, think about the toll it will take on your body…stretch marks, extra skin, weight gain. Do they make maternity prom dresses? Do you want to travel, go out with friends when you turn 21, stay out late?
infants and asthma
Nov 25th, 2009
Do you realize babies are more than just cute and cuddly?
They cry.
They scream.
They need hospital visits a few times a WEEK the first YEAR of birth.
Diapers are expensive.
FORMULA is super expensive.
Having a baby at your age is an awful idea.
You’re way too ignorant to know what it’s like to be an all around mom.
P.S. “Also, my family makes good money”
…Does this mean you are going to rely on your family for money?
That’s irresponsible.
And totally immature.
Grow up.
And go play Barbies.
?Mesomen
Nov 25th, 2009
Well, take the advice from me: I’ve been there. I’m there now.
Can you handle sleepless nights? Midnight feedings, random crying, projectile spit up, losing everything, having no money for yourself, having no time to yourself, and wanting to pull your hair out because there are so many things you have to have done and nowhere NEAR enough time to do it?
Don’t get me wrong, I love my daughter, but there’s so much stress that comes with having a baby. Yes, the smiling and laughing and all of that is downright adorable, but at 16 years old, you’re nowhere near mature enough to handle it. I know I’m not.
Try babysitting, get a part time job at a daycare, something like that. Wait until you’re out of school, you’ve lived your life, and you’ve done everything you want to do in life, because even though babies aren’t gonna kill all your dreams, they’re definitely a pretty big roadblock. As for the boyfriend thing? I was with mine for 8 months, and he broke up with me. We’re back together now, but there’s a lot to work through. And “my family makes good money”? Never a good idea. I hate doing it, but right now it’s the only way I can get by.
Don’t do it now. Take your time; live your life.
ooopiggy
Nov 25th, 2009
Baby’s aren’t just all kicks and giggles. I was in 9th grade raising 2 baby’s on my own. It was hell! From the time I got out of school tell the time i went to bed is when i took care of them. I had no social life. Weekends were 24/7. Think of a baby throwing a fit all the time. That is what its like. Babys are just cute. but they cry they get sick they can’t talk they rely on you for everything. I was up at 2 o’clock in the morning for hours holding a baby trying to get him to go back to bed. and if you put them down they wake back up and they cry bc they don’t want your bottle they want you to hold them. Try standing up for 2hr straight your back arched rocking them back in forth for 4 days straight its exhausting and then you have school. on top of that. your 16 and if your a junior you have to study all the time so your pretty much tried and just want to go to bed but your baby needs you so you can’t. I suggest you read some biography or books on how it feel slike to be a young mother before you think its all flowers and daisy and just because you been together for 8 months do you think he will be in your life for the rest of your life or your baby life things change my dad left when i was 4 my mom knew him since she was 12 they grew up together and fell in love she had her baby when seh was 16 she had 3 daughter with him and he left just like that my sister has 3 kids soon to be four and she got pergant at 16 he left her i raised her 2 boys i’m 19 now i had twins when i was 16 and remember htis it doesnt matter if your parent make good money bc its your responsiblity not there to care and provide for your child
*Lilah Bear's Mama*
Nov 26th, 2009
Not crazy at all, just your “maternal instincts” so to speak. Have you thought of maybe getting a babysitting job? That might help with wanting a baby, at least you will get to be around and take care of them at times. Or maybe you could get a pet…..
NO, I don’t think it’s a good idea to get pregnant now. It’s alot harder to take care of a baby than you think. I had my first, and only so far, at 28 and I couldn’t even imagine for a second trying to do this when I was 16, no way. Just wait and be patient sweetie!
Becca
Nov 26th, 2009
Oh, sweet girl, please do not get pregnant on purpose at your age! I am saying this as someone who understands your love for children. I think for what you are wanting, it would be SOO much better for you to get a babysitting job, or volunteer in a nursery at a church. There are ways that you can enjoy the fun of babies without having to take on that much responsibility right now. I have one baby boy and I love him but he is a FULL time job that I will have for the rest of my life! You have so many things to accomplish first! Going to college was SOO much fun- staying up late in the dorms with the girls, going to parties, studying for exams…all these things will be next to impossible if you have a child. Seriously, be the fun babysitter who loves on people’s kids and then can give them back at night. Your enthusiasm for babies is a great gift but use it wisely right now! And also, I really want to ask you to strongly consider waiting on the sex too. It seems exciting and cool but the truth is, if you don’t stay with this person (and even if you do) it could lead to a lot of regrets. Wait a few years and give yourself a chance to be innocent and enjoy your youth while you have it. Good luck!
??RN??
Nov 26th, 2009
doesn’t matter if your fam makes good money, baby will be YOUR responsibility; and it is a tiresome, tiresome thing to do; u will want the best for your baby but will u be able to give them that if u are young, still in school? you need to have fun with friends, finish high school, finish college, settle down with the right man, get married, buy a house and a couple of cars, have a good career, not just a job, before you even think about a baby; ours is seven mos old and u wouldn’t believe how much we had to spend before she was even born to get her all the things she needed, not just wants….babysit for a weekend for a very young baby, and take all the night wakings, changes, feeding, as well as all day care and then see if you are ready….i think it will change your mind for a while;
it’s ok to want one now, but best not to HAVE one now….
uk paid surveys
Nov 26th, 2009
Not a good idea … you’re just too young to have a child right now. I’m sure that you see them and they look cute and all, but having a baby is such a huge responsibility, yeah they can be cute, and they love you and all, but it’s so much work. There’s so much more other than having a good job that should factor into your decision. Going to school and having a baby is hard, very hard, children need a lot of time and attention and with the time that you’ll spend trying to go to school, and work will certaintly take away from the time that you’ll want to spend with your child. There’s also health care cost (health insurance), baby sitting fees. And you also mentioned your boyfriend, 8 months together is not nearly enough time to decide that you want to be with someone and have a child. We’ll see how great that boyfriend will be once you tell him that you’re pregnant, I’m sure he’ll vanish like the invisible man. Maybe you should have seen the episode of Tyra Banks with the pregnant teens. Not a good look, sorry. You should wait until you’re older, and more established in life. You have so much life a head of you, way make it more difficult than is should be. If you want to be around children, maybe you should consider babysitting. Maybe you should ask a question on yahoo answers about being a teen parent and see what type of responses you get. Not just the good things, but the hard and challenging things, maybe just in general other people’s experiences. So again, not good idea…..
Little Girl #2 due May 3rd
Nov 26th, 2009
It is crazy for you to think it is ok, so you have a job and will still go to college here is the thing the baby takes money and time. Look at the odds of mothers who went to college when they were a young mom, very little because they didnt have the money to go to school pay the bills and take care of the baby. All the things you just explained about a baby are great but that is not all a baby is…soft, happy, cute and little. They are hard work, you have to teach them how to be, how to learn and how to be an adult. If you have never had these experiences how are you going to teach someonelse how to handle them. Go to school and get established and give the baby everything it deserves don’t pull it into your selfish tiraid because you want what you want now and don’t want to give that baby the chance it deserves. THINK HARDER